FACILITATION STATEMENTS

by Martha Stark, MD / Faculty, Harvard Medical School

 

Model 4 facilitation statements speak to the patient’s intense ambivalence about “being found” vs. “remaining hidden.”

 

Such statements will be “optimally stressful” inasmuch as they address not only the patient’s conflict between her longing to be known and understood and her terror of being found but also her ambivalence about even living in a world that she experiences as empty and devoid of meaning or purpose.

 

“A part of you would want desperately to be seen the understood; but another part of you is terrified of being found.”

 

“A part of you would want to be able to find a reason to go on living; but another part of you is quite sure that there is no meaning to be found.”

 

“A part of you longs to be known, seen, heard, understood; but another part of you is terrified of being found.”

 

“A part of you wants to be found; but another part of you is intent upon remaining hidden.”

 

“A part of you wishes you could find someone upon whom you could depend, someone who would make you feel safe; but another part of you is convinced that it does not make sense to make the effort to find that person.”

 

“Sometimes you think about trying to connect with somebody; but then it all seems so futile.”

 

“A part of you would want to be able to trust me; but another part of you holds back for fear of being betrayed, too many people along the way have broken your heart.”

 

“A part of you is desperate to be able to feel that you are part of the world; but another part of you is not willing to take the chance.”

 

Depending upon where the patient is in the moment, either the first part of the statement will be the “challenge” and the second part the “support” or the second part of the statement will be the “challenge” and the first part the “support.”

 

Either way, the statement speaks to conflict that lies within the patient.

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